From Esther and Jerry Hicks Book:
The Astonishing Power of Emotions Let Your Feelings Be Your Guide
Example 32: My Dog Died and I Feel Grief
“People often feel more sadness over the loss of their pet than nearly anything else that they ever experience. Some think this pain is illogical and ill placed, for there are so many other important aspects to life that must surely be more important than your pet. “He suffered more over the death of his dog than when his own dear father died,” they have said.
The more you want something, the more you suffer when you focus upon the absence of it. But the pain you are feeling over the death of your dog is not because of the absence of your dog – it is much bigger than that.
Your dog represented Pure, Positive Energy to you. Your dog remained, throughout his entire life, as you were when you were first born: an extension of Pure, Positive Energy… Your dog loved you as you are and did not ask you to be different. Your dog did not hold you responsible for his happiness. Your dog did enjoy being with you but never suffered in your absence, for his joy was not dependent upon your behavior. Your dog neither anticipated nor feared death, but understood the Eternal Nature of his Being. We cannot say any of these things about your father.
If we were standing in your physical shoes, we would focus upon the uplifting feeling that you so often felt in the company of your dog. Remember his eagerness to go with you for a walk…Remember his peaceful demeanor as he lay on the floor with his head on his paws. And as you relax back into the good-feeling memory of the attitude of your dog, you will come back into <feeling happier emotions> alignment, in the same way you used to when he was in the room with you.
…Statements are an accurate representation of how you are feeling and the kinds of thoughts you have been thinking about your dog. The process of reaching for slightly improved thoughts is designed to help you realize that while you cannot bring this wonderful dog back to life, you can feel better anyway, if you try. However, you cannot continue to think the same <negative, sad> thoughts and say the same things and still find improvement. You have to reach for thoughts that feel better – so make the effort:
I’m not always sad, because I do focus on other things.
Sometimes I go for quite a while without feeling the intense sadness about my dog.
Even when my dog was alive, I didn’t think about him all through the day.
I’m glad I had the time I did with that wonderful dog.
Someday I may find another dog that I’ll love as well.
I remember my last dog when he was a puppy.
I’ll have to remember back to his puppy personality.
He was interested in everything…happy about everything.
I could use a little dose of that.
When you find a thought (or a group of thoughts) that gives you a feeling of relief, it is helpful to stay with those thoughts for a while, repeating them and looking for thoughts that are similar to them…If you will take the time to find the relieving statement and then acknowledge that you do, indeed, feel better, you will have accomplished a great deal.”